Dhwani Rajan

Being a People Pleaser Can Leave You Feeling Drained and Anxious

Something that isn’t talked about enough is the mental health impact that comes from chronic people-pleasing. Feeling like you always have to make others happy is exhausting, and it can leave you anxious in social situations, questioning your own feelings and judgment.

When You Say Yes to Everyone Else, You’re Saying No to Yourself

Over time, as a chronic people pleaser, your self-esteem may wear down. More than that, your relationship with yourself can get lost. The need to make sure everyone around you is happy comes at the cost of your own happiness. Together, we can work on rebuilding your self-worth, and you can learn to tune into what you need and want. Many clients find that over time, they can start to say no to others and yes to themselves.

How I Approach Online Therapy

If I’m being honest, I’m a bit of a mental health geek. I love learning about the latest findings in psychology and psychotherapy, and I bring that same curiosity and care to my sessions, helping you explore your thoughts and feelings. I’ve seen firsthand the real changes that can happen when a new awareness dawns on a client, and it’s a joy to witness those shifts in their world.

In our sessions, we’ll work together to make sure you feel supported and able to be yourself. I often draw on Internal Family Systems (IFS), cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT), and person-centered approaches, and I’ll match the method to what fits you best. My focus as your therapist is that you get to know yourself better and have the tools and skills you need to live well in your day to day life, and from a “big picture” perspective.

My Story Is One With Many Moments of Change

Although I’m not old, I feel as though I’ve lived many lives. Maybe you can relate. I was born in India, with my beloved grandparents being a big part of my early years. I was interested in psychology from a young age, although I didn’t know it was called that. I just wanted to know why we do the things we do. I studied psychology at university and began working as a psychologist soon after graduating. Shortly after that, I got married.

“Who Am I?” Is a Question So Many of Us Ask

After marriage and the start of my career, this question “who am I?” began a journey for me to get to know myself better and think about how I wanted to experience life.

Time passed, and after many conversations, my partner and I decided we wanted to begin a new chapter in Canada. While our start in Canada was bumpy (we arrived during Covid), with time we were able to make friends and find our footing in our new home. My partner found a job, and I was able to re-qualify as a therapist here in Canada after additional training. The past few years have taught me so much, and the journey has given me a new understanding of what it can mean to find new purpose and identity, and how to rebuild yourself anew.

Whatever You’re Going Through, Talking to Someone Can Often Help

No matter how much you plan, life has a way of surprising you. Whether that’s because you’ve been diagnosed with a mood disorder, have experienced depression, anxiety, or people-pleasing, or are walking wounded from a difficult event or relationship, connecting with someone who isn’t actively involved in your daily life can often help. Seeing a therapist brings a fresh perspective and new ways to work through what’s weighing on you.

If you’re ready to talk, I’m here to listen. Life is full of twists and turns, and having someone by your side can make a real difference. I’m currently accepting new clients, so let’s connect and explore how I can support you. Reach out. I’d love to hear your story and help you move toward a life that feels more like your own.